THE TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING
Bronnie Ware is a nurse who spent 7 years working at the bedside of the elderly and dying. During that time she had many deep conversations about life with her patients. Many of the people she talked to had the same regrets when looking back at their lives. Below is a list of the top five regrets that she heard.
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5. I wish I had let myself be happier
When looking back at their lives many found that they were not as happy as they could have been. With age people tend to come to the realization that happiness ultimately is a choice. Happiness depends very much on your outlook of life more so than your outside circumstances. Outside circumstances can defiantly help! Getting a lambo will keep you happy for a while but there are more important metrics at play. Two people are often born into similar circumstances but can have varying levels of happiness. Happiness ultimately depends on your outlook on the events in your life.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
In the final days of many people’s lives they often looked back at their lost friendships. Many regretted not having stayed in contact with friends from years back, and often wondered what these friends were up to. It’s easy to lose track of people in life, even those we swear we would never forget. We must remember to keep in touch with those friends that we connected with in the past to avoid this regret. So which friends of your friends is overdue a call?
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
The courage to express feelings honestly is one that is difficult for a lot of people. It’s difficult because it often puts you in a vulnerable position, however the regret is often far worse in the end. • The regret of not telling someone we love that we love them.
• The regret of not telling someone that how they treat us was unacceptable
• The regret of not coming to terms with our sexuality
• The regret of not coming to terms with our true personal beliefs
These are all examples of a lack of congruence with our feelings.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
Working the 9-5 Monday-Friday for decades is bound to leave you jaded. Sometimes we take on extra hours at work just so that we can make more money, or obtain a more strategic position for promotion. We save money for the dream of retirement. For many of us it’s constantly Hustle Hustle Hustle Hustle. The consequence is often one of regret at not enjoying life, not doing all the things we might have dreamed of. This regret is rather poignant because we can look back at all the hard work and think “what for?” Where are the memories of traveling the world? Learning new things? And having new experiences? They don’t exist.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
The most heard regret was the regret of living a life based of other people’s expectations. The regret of living a life that fit the ‘socially conditioned narrative’. Many outside influences tell us what we should do, and what is appropriate. These influences can suffocate us until we give in and follow what the herd is doing. Many of us
• Go to college because we are told to
• Get married before we are ready because our parents and friends will look down on us
• Buy things we don’t necessary need
• Get the Jobs we are not overly enthusiastic about
All these things are done in order to fulfil the script. When we are on our death beds we start to have thoughts about ‘what we could have done’, and how life ‘could have been’, if we just had the courage to live life on our terms.
THANK YOU FOR READING So those are the 5 most common regrets of the dying! Don’t let any of these be yours. Once again you can check out the animated video Summary here: Watch This
